武侠梁祝 Butterfly Lovers

I watched 武侠梁祝 Butterfly Lovers on Saturday, was 5 mins late for the movie but lucky found out that the 5 mins was not critical. It is a kungfu version of Shakespeare's Romeo & Juliet with 吴尊 Wu Chun as Romeo and 蔡卓妍 Charlene Choi as Juliet.

心如蝶舞 - 蔡卓妍 Charlene Choi

The 武侠梁祝 Butterfly Lovers Story:

Yanzi (蔡卓妍 Charlene Choi) and Chengen (胡歌 Hu Ge) grew up together. An enemy of Yanzi family who was a high ranking official wanted a forced marriage with her, thus Yanzi's parents have to send her off to a martial arts sect in the mountain to avoid the marriage. Due to this, Yanzi's parents was imprisoned by the official but she was kept in the dark. Chengen who was also an official was forced to work with a general who wanted to eliminate the premier. Chengen betrayed the premier and was promoted 3 ranks which enabled him to eliminate the high ranking official. In the meanwhile, Yanzi took shelter at the martial arts sect and knew Zhongsan (吴尊 Wu Chun) who was the senior disciple of the sect. Both fall in love with each other deeply while Chengen was trying to eliminate the premier for the general.

Love blossoms between Yanzi & Zhongsan

Finally, Chengen went to tell Yanzi the truth about what was happening to her family and fetched her home. He also released Yanzi's parents from prison and imprisoned the high ranking official, thus Chengen became the benefactor to the whole family. Chengen knew that Yanzi had fall in love with Zhongsan, so he quickly proposed to Yanzi's parents for marriage and they agreed. Yanzi was strongly against the idea as her heart was with Zhongsan. She knew that Chengen had done alot for her but she felt that kindness should be repay with kindness, not love. In the end, Yanzi was locked up in her room by her parents because she disagreed the marriage.

Yanzi forced to marry Chengen

Zhongsan secretly went to Yanzi's house and met her, they decided to elope together the next day when Yanzi had a chance to visit the temple. Finally, Yanzi escaped and waited at a pavilion for Zhongsan but Chengen knew about it and held her parents as hostages. Since Chengen was influential and held Yanzi parents as hostages, Yanzi had no choice but to return and marry him. But while Yanzi was in the sedan, she took a fake death pill which will make her seemed dead for a few days. Both Chengen and Zhongsan was unaware that Yanzi was faking death and this was the start of the tragedy.

Zhongsan at Yanzi's funeral

The marriage had become a funeral and Zhongsan fight his way through Chengen's lackeys to see Yanzi one last time. Chengen finally realized what he was doing was wrong, thus he let Zhongsan took the body of Yanzi away. At that time, Zhongsan was already seriously injured after the fight. He carried Yanzi to the butterfly valley which was the place where their love first blossomed. After digging a hole there, he placed Yanzi and himself in the hole and he died. Soon, the disciples of the martial arts sect came and saw both Yanzi and Zhongsan dead thus they start throwing in sands to bury them. In the meanwhile, Yanzi woke up after the effect of the fake death pill went off but she saw Zhongsan lying motionless beside her. Thus she decided to sacrifice and die with him together, being buried alive.

My Personal Opinions:

Chengen was too persistent in getting Yanzi. Even though they grew up together, Yanzi only treat him like a brother. He cannot understand why Yanzi was so deeply in love with Zhongsan whom she had just met and not with him who had known her since young. He does not understand that the law of attractions will overshadow the law of affections which is universal in our world.

Repaying anything (including kindness except love) with love is not a correct thing to do. By doing so, you are harming all the persons involved. Love cannot be forced, thus how can we use it as a repayment material.

Giving is better than receiving. If Chengen give up or give blessings to both Yanzi and Zhongsan, it will result in a good ending. But rather he wanted to possess Yanzi by forcing her to marry him which resulted in such a tragedy. I believe he will receive more if he is willing to give in the first place. Most people will only want to receive and never put in effort to give. It is not a bad idea to surrender or give in, you can still have win-win situation by surrendering or giving in. The Hanged Man of the major arcana of the Tarot card is a very good example of gaining enlightenment through surrendering.

Because I'm A Girl

Because I'm A Girl - Kiss



This is a touching MV which shows us how much man can sacrifice for their loved ones. The song was released in 2002, quite long ago but wonderful song will always be remembered.

"You told me that you wanted me and now that I've given you everything, you tell me you're leaving" and "They say that when you give a guy all he wants he quickly get bored" seems true to me. It is the cat string theory in place again. Below is an illustration of cat string theory.



I happened to let cat string theory and law of attractions to play a trick on me also and I hate it. I was hoping to buy a Sony Cybershot camera for quite some time and finally I got it a few days back but the camera no longer interests me. The feeling of owning it is so different from what I expected at first, another clear example of not knowing what I really want. Maybe I should really go and live in seclusion...

Understanding Your Needs & Wants

A bowl of porridge story I heard in radio today:

One day, a boy had a bowl of porridge and a girl asked him what will he do about it. The boy replied, "I will give half a bowl to my mother and the other half to you". Since then on the girl fallen into love with the boy but when the girl grown up, she married someone else. In the end, the girl regretted and realized that purest form of love she experienced was the love from the boy for her...

In modern society, the boundary between needs and wants of human are blurred. To some people, having iPod is becoming a need and no longer a luxury want, thus this leads to more not knowing what they really need or want. In the story, the girl finally realized the love she was pursuing all the while was right beside her but she chose the other guy. Humans have been trying to get what they want and some do it by hooks or by crooks but one thing we seldom realized is that the object we are longing for may not be the best to satisfy our needs. We have been trapped in this dilemma for thousands of years.

I believe that the laws of attraction is at fault, it causes us to get attracted to the object and have sudden surge of obsession over it. We will covers away the flaws that the object may have and only focus on the good points due to the way our brain works. This is why the quote "Love is blind" is all about. Couples whom still enjoying the works of attraction (meaning deeply in love or new couple) will not be able to see through the flaws their partners might have. After the attraction level decreases, our brain will start to think more logically. Thus only after the works of attraction diminish, the couple will then start to complain about the flaws each other has and all those incompatibilities they had since day 1. This is where the quote "Seen your true colours" came about.

Sometimes the object that we really want is right by our side all the while, just that it is human nature to be curious about new object. Attractions caused by the new object will temporary cover up the affection we have for the other objects, but after getting the new object they will realize that this is not what they wanted. Eg, After iPhone came out, tons of people went to grab for it because of the hype but after using it, some will find that the iPhone is not suitable for them due to many reasons. The original handphone model which they wanted to buy might suit them better. Of course, the example listed is only discussing about material object which can be easily replaced. But if we take it into the relationship viewpoint, choosing someone who attracts you more and not the other who love you more may have you regret for life as attraction will die off but affection will not. You cannot guarantee that the one who attracts you will have the same level of affection as the one who love you more.

Thus, do make your choice on your needs and wants wisely and do not be affected by the laws of attraction too much as it is transient only.

PS: If you do not know your needs and wants clearly, just like me, it is good to enjoy some moments of solitude to find out what you really need or want in short-term timeframe.

Limits & Self-Centeredness

"Love can come at the most unexpected moment and one day, slip away without a trace, leaving an unforgettable impression." A quote I accidentally came across on the Internet, how true is it will depend on the reader. As for me it is only true for the first half, an unforgettable impression is not something rational to me. Let dive back into the topic on limits and self-centeredness.

Limits is defined as the point, edge, or line beyond which something cannot or may not proceed. Do humans really know their personal limits? By not understanding and behaving out of the limits, humans can easily hurt the people around them even if not done deliberately.

Self-centered is defined as being concerned solely or chiefly with one's own interests or centered in oneself. I personally believed that humans are self-centered in nature, with example of historical backing like the geocentric model of the universe embraced by both Aristotle and Ptolemy. Ancient Greek and Chinese believed that the Earth is in the center of the universe and all other objects orbit around it. Even though the geocentric model did not match with some celestial observations, ancient scientists came up with lame sub-models to make it seemed working and rejected a simpler model in which the Earth is orbiting the Sun. Why is this so? The only reason I can think of is that humans are self-centered and they believed that all other objects should be orbiting around them not the other way round.

One should always observe and behave within the specific limits set by others in order not to hurt them. Albert Einstein's view of the world is that one lives for the others, thus we should not go around hurting others who we live for. Please plan your daily decisions and actions in view of others so as to prevent catastrophic consequences which you might regret for life. Making stupid decisions and actions in which the reason was to source for fun will make you a miserable person as fun is transient but consequences aren't.

PS: I personally have break some limits and is still regretting over it which will haunt me for life. Thus with every decision or action you going take, think of the limits set by others and you first. Do not be self-centered.